MKP USA Mastering Mature Masculinity Coaching

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Where do I want to go now?
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  • I find the right guide for one on one coaching
  • I allow myself to be challenged and held accountable
  • I learn new ways of being, practices, strategies and tactics


The ManKind Project is blessed to have among our brotherhood some truly incredible power-house master coaches. These are men who:

MKP USA Mature Masculinity Coaching

"Understanding the amygdalic response to fear is helping us deal with phobias, guilt, emotional pain, prejudice, and other disorders. Due to early imprinting, people have powerful aversive response to inappropriate stimulus. The usual treatments include drugs to suppress the programming, and then therapy to allow the frontal lobes to reprogram the response.

These stress responses were designed to help us escape a tiger... not to deal with the daily hammering of bills or social stress. The Limbic system is our friend, evolutionarily. And can rip us apart in modern life.

Exercise combined with powerful emotion can have a magical effect, tapping into that circuitry. Instead of long-term grinding stress, you are faced with the momentary, immediate need to perform. Your brain understands this!

Instead of a cascade of corrosive hormones, you tap into fuel and burn it in the fire of your commitment. Your brain understands this!

Instead of a chorus of disparate voices, pulling you in all directions, as you work steadily and relentlessly toward a simple attainable goal, fatigue burns away everything but the need to breath, move, take one more step. Your brain understands this!

Instead of locking your pain, disappointment, anxiety, resentment and anger into a tangle of poisonous emotions, you can deal with your body's need for oxygen, a fear that dwarfs all others. Deal with this one, and you learn the secret of dealing with all of them.

Face every day as an empty canvas, presented to your mind and heart for your deepest expression. Empty your dreams onto the blank slate. Focus on the aspects you can handle today. Do what you can, and trust that as you take steps through the fog it disperses just enough to reveal what the NEXT step must be. And the next. And the next.

Mind, body, and heart were intended to be used together. Each is dependent upon the other two. Synergy is the law of the inner world."

-Steve Barnes
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"This is going to be a delicate one, but I’m going to mention it anyway. One of the great teachers of my life was a woman named Dawn Callan, teacher of a fabulous self-defense/empowerment workshop called “Awaken The Warrior Within.” In two days, Dawn could teach women more about self defense than most instructors can in two years.

She did this with a combination of simple techniques drilled endlessly for two days at high intensity, combined with spiritual therapy-group style introspection and sharing. Then, at the end, you practice your skills against a padded attacker, in a combat exercise that has to be experienced to be believed. INTENSE. Breakthrough stuff.

I watched hundreds of women go through this process, including some who had been raped or abused. And they came out the other side with a sense of power and possibility that was astounding. Dawn was, in the space of that workshop, an avatar of power and responsibility and pure Goddess energy, fierce as Kali. About five two on the outside, and seven feet tall on the inside. Amazing woman.
I asked her what was the hardest thing she had to face in helping these women (and later, men) through this challenge. And what she said blew my mind. With a woman who had been raped, her greatest challenge was getting her to take responsibility for what had happened. What? What the hell?

She was very precise in her language. “Responsibility.” Not guilt, blame, or shame. Response-ability. The ability to respond. Without that, she believed, you were a victim forever. Taking responsibility for what HAD happened opened the door to taking responsibility for your future actions and behaviors and encounters.

With that, you tap into your deeper perceptions, intuition, and pure animal survival drives from a spiritual perspective. Without that, all you can do is plead for help or mercy. And that was most definitely NOT where Dawn was coming from.

And it was difficult, because the natural tendency IS to confuse “responsibility” with guilt, blame and shame. But if you remove those emotions, what have you?

Commitment. A sense that, even if you cannot always see or understand the pattern, you have agency. But how can you embrace a philosophy like that? What of abused children? What of people born into unbelievable poverty? What of people born with childhood diseases? Can you ask them to take “responsibility” for any of that?

You cannot demand it, no. And it is totally understandable that saying this can be uncomfortable. Even worse (much worse), some people use such a philosophy to justify cruelty or neglect. “Why, they chose that miserable state...”

What the hell, indeed. And Dawn, a woman of titanic, ruthless compassion, understood that. So she would NEVER ask people to accept such a position until she had shifted their emotions to a powerful state in which they could view their lives out of the “victim” mindset.

This is a tightrope. Huge. But every woman I saw cross it found something that she thought she had lost: a sense of power in her life. She could not change what had happened, but by God, she could take every ounce of that pain and turn it into motivation. Strength. Resolve. She could define what had happened to her as the trigger to turn her into a tiger committed to protecting ALL women, ALL children, and that she was willing to die before losing her commitment.

Taking power like that, as hard as it clearly was, opened the door to a kind of power and clarity that was unique. Never seen anything like it.

And if hundreds of women could do THAT, what was I being asked to do? To find a way to be grateful in the midst of pain. Was there a way? Could I even imagine looking back ten years from now and seeing ANYTHING to be happy about?

Well, sure. Maybe .01% possibility, but...

And if that was true, if there was only a single cold star in a bleak, black night sky, didn’t it behoove me to concentrate on that star, if doing so brought joy to my life, and that joy made me a better husband, and father, and writer, and coach, and then made me a more attractive, dynamic person, drawing in allies and opportunities, which then could lead to me getting out of Atlanta and back to L.A.?
I could see the line of causality. I could “grasp” it. Could see how something analogous had worked in other circumstances. Had had the people I trust most in the world tell me, every one of them, that I had to find joy, peace, happiness, GRATITUDE where I was, when I was, or I was on the wrong path.

I could have my pain and anger and despair, or I could have my life. I just had to step away from the damage, not define myself by my ego trainwreck. I was not “that.” My life was not defined by “that.” I had agency. Had made choices. Could MAKE choices, if not in what had already happened, certainly in my interpretation. What does it mean? Who am I? What is true?

And if I could line that up so that every event was empowering, even the negative ones (if for no other reason than I HAD LEARNED THE LESSON AND SURVIVED), then everything that had ever happened to me in my life could be an empowerment. A doorway. A bridge. A motivator.
Every enemy an ally. Every happenstance a miracle. Every day of my life a building block to the man I am today. And if I love that man, I must be grateful for all of it. To all of THEM.

Forgiveness is not a gift to your enemies. It does not mean forgetting, or allowing them to hurt you again. It is a way to unburden your heart.

If you learn the lesson, you can release the pain and fear. And what remains is love.

And gratitude. For another day of life. For a strong, healthy body. For the people who love and trust me. For Jason, and Nicki, and my beautiful, brilliant wife. For the chance to help one more person by embracing the truth of my own existence.

And the only cost for this lightness of being is giving up the need to be right. And the fear that if I don’t dump my negative emotions and fear onto others, it will rebound upon me.

Could I be that strong? Could I? Well, if I was committed to being the man I’m committed to being, yes. If I am to be the father and husband I am committed to being, yes. The role model I’m committed to being. The friend. The writer. The coach.

It made sense, even if I couldn’t quite attain it. So I did what I have done before: I made it a prayer. To God, to my own Higher Self--you decide. I don’t care.

“God,” I said. “I’m going to give up my anger. I’m going to take the leap. I can’t see what is in front of me, it’s a leap into a fog bank. All I ask is that you either catch me, or, if there are rocks down there, let me hit them before I see them.”

And I jumped, into a world of love, and acceptance, and gratitude.

And was caught. And transformed."

-Steve Barnes
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"Stoicism tells us that negative moments in our lives are teachers: We can learn how to be decent when we are treated indecently; the obstacle to getting something becomes the way to get that thing. Everything that happens to us—good, bad, ugly—becomes an opportunity to improve.

Recently, the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court, John Roberts, gave a high school commencement speech, at the school his kid attends. More often than not, these speeches aren't worth paying attention to; they tend to repeat the same themes ("Seize the day!" "Don't be afraid!" "Follow your dreams.") and with good reason: it’s not a bad idea for students at the threshold of their lives to hear those messages. Justice Roberts went in a different direction—a Stoic direction. You can read the whole speech here, but the paragraph that would have made Seneca and Marcus Aurelius proud is the following:

Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why. From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.
So today we wish you the any good Stoic would."

Daily Stoic
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"The reasons we want to be "better" are the reasons we aren't."
Alan Watts
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"Do you get up each morning eager to get to work? Or do you pack your soul away in your closet before you leave for work each morning, anxious to liberate it when you get home? Is your soul in your work or is your soul waiting for you to get home from work? Where is your soul when you’re working?

Why is getting a job so dumb? Because you only get paid when you’re working. Don’t you see a problem with that, or have you been so thoroughly brainwashed into thinking it’s reasonable and intelligent to only earn income when you’re working? Have you never considered that it might be better to be paid even when you’re not working? Who taught you that you could only earn income while working? Some other brainwashed employee perhaps?

Look around you. Really look. What do you see? Are these the surroundings of a free human being? Or are you living in a cage for unconscious animals? Have you fallen in love with the color beige?

How’s your obedience training coming along? Does your master reward your good behavior? Do you get disciplined if you fail to obey your master’s commands?
Is there any spark of free will left inside you? Or has your conditioning made you a pet for life?
Humans are not meant to be raised in cages. You poor thing…

When you want to increase your income, do you have to sit up and beg your master for more money? Does it feel good to be thrown some extra Scooby Snacks now and then?
Or are you free to decide how much you get paid without needing anyone’s permission but your own?

If you have a business and one customer says “no” to you, you simply say “next.”

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This week's discussion with the MKP Mature Masculinity coaches Dene Maria Sebastiana, Evan Daily and Craig Bloomstrand starts with imaginings about the king, wanders through Minnesota trees and sky to the tough challenge to the sovereign posed by current events and might leave you in tears when Evan shares the power of our work and sitting in circle. ... See MoreSee Less

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  • Went through a New Warrior Training Adventure initiation
  • Spent years in the alchemy of integrating the wounds of their past with the golden possibilities in their present
  • Moved on to actively manifesting mission and unconditional love into the world
  • Were able to transcend and include their experiences to create a mature masculine presence to guide others
  • Have, for years, devoted themselves to practicing their craft

The Mastering Mature Masculinity© approach focuses on learning sovereign masculine presence in order to:

  • Empower and enrich the lives of men, support their increased effectiveness, and reinforce their value and values.
  • Guide men into personal alchemy – where shadows are transformed into gold and men come to inhabit their mature spiritual masculine.
  • Provide personal guidance and mentoring for New Warriors’ involvement in all aspects of MKP USA and the lives of their families and communities.

How might mastering mature masculinity show up in your life?

To find out, sign up here for a free introductory session with Lead Coach Jan Hutchins via Zoom video conferencing.


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Mastering Mature Masculinity© Coaching is a revolutionary addition to the ManKind Project’s curriculum for activating men’s brilliance and deepening the impact and effectiveness of the New Warrior Training Adventure and other MKP USA offerings.

During the evolution of MKP, we have developed, adopted and adapted technologies to guide human development. Our coaching methods are informed by this tested body of core beliefs and understandings and delivered by trained, experienced facilitators.

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NOTE: Mastering Mature Masculinity Coaching is not therapy or a substitute for professional mental health services. See the ManKind Project USA Declaration on Mental Health.

The ManKind Project is a global nonprofit [501 (c)(3)] charitable organization that conducts challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of life. The ManKind Project supports a global network of peer-facilitated men's groups where men mentor men through the passages of their lives. The ManKind Project empowers men to missions of service, supporting men to make a difference in the lives of men, women, and children around the world. We help men through any transition, men at all levels of success, men facing almost any challenge. Our flagship training, described by many as the most powerful men's training available, is the New Warrior Training Adventure. The ManKind Project (MKP) is not affiliated with any religious practice or political party. We strive to be increasingly inclusive and culturally aware.