Week 3: Course Outline
Ground Rules / Logistics / Confidentiality – Checking In. :: How We Show Up
Leaders will model and guide the check-in
- (3 min) Welcome … Bless you for coming back!
Ground Rules
- Confidentiality – What I say here is confidential. Outside this circle, I will not share another man’s words, actions, or identity. I will only speak of my own experience and personal insights. Assume that there are mandated reporters in attendance who have a legal responsibility to report cases of abuse or potential abuse.
- Punctuality – The group will begin on time and end on time. If I arrive late, I will not interrupt the flow of the group.
- Ethical Relationships – This is not a business group. No solicitations.
- Non-Violence – Violence can be physical, verbal, emotional, or spiritual. I acknowledge that my words and actions have an impact on those around me. I take responsibility for my words and actions.
- No Drugs or Alcohol – I will not attend the group while under the influence of alcohol or recreational drugs. If I break this agreement I will tell the group and accept the choice of the group in handling this to create a safe space for the men present.
- Participation – I will speak openly and truthfully in “I” statements (not “you” or “he” statements). Any man may pass at any time. Any man may STOP a process (especially in the service of maintaining safety). I am not here to give advice. If I want advice, I will ask for it specifically. I will ask permission before offering feedback. I am responsible for taking care of myself. If I need something, I will ask for it. If I have questions, I will ask
Check In
- Body Centered Meditation
Check-in: Name, City, Emotion … where it is in your body, a couple of lines about what the emotion means … feeling.
Leaders model check-in
The Week #2 Question:
- What was it like to go to someone you care about to ask them what they want you to hear?
Check in on readings from Week 2
- Resistance – Pressfield. There are things that get in our way of doing the work that you’re here to do.
- Shadow – Multiple meanings and ways of seeing ourselves and the world.
Deeper Check In
Limiting Beliefs
- I show up as the man I want to be and live the life I want to live WHEN … (or IF)
- What are the limiting beliefs, stories getting in the way.
- We’re also speaking to your CHOICE about how you’re living your life.
- There’s something rumbling in you. This is connected to the stories of resistance … to our shadows.
Accountability
- Leaders invite the men into accountability – run it
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- Accountable – My balance sheet. How does what I say line up with what I do?
- Integrity / Congruent – How do I feel about my Accountability?
- How do I impact the world? What is my impact?
- How can I take more responsibility for my side of the street?
- Internal Pollution
- External Pollution
- My internal reality creates my external reality.
- What do I let myself get away with?
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Practicing Accountability
- Leaders lead and model accountability. Lead with Golden Accountability.
Is there a man in the circle who made a specific agreement in the past week, and KEPT IT? - Who here wants to look at a piece of Accountability?
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- What was your commitment?
- Did you keep the agreement?
- Choice: If you Did NOT meet the commitment – What did you choose to do instead?
If you DID meet the commitment – What could you have done instead? - What is the impact on you?
- What is the impact on those around you?
- Shadow / Resistance : What’s the belief … under that? What is the old belief about yourself that this reinforces?
- Accountability: What do you want to do to move forward?
What are you willing to do to be the captain of your ship? What is a simple action that you will take?
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The Invitation:
We want to give you some tools.
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- Deep Insight and Emotional Healing
- Integration of your Archetypal Energies
- Grounding Ritual
- Tools for Accountability
- Mission. Vision. Purpose.
- Clearing
- Tools for handling conflict and deep emotional charge
- Tools for radically healing past trauma, wounds and injury.
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Here’s what we will do: Send you more information.
Here is the link to the Alumni Page
This page contains a number of resources for ongoing connection to the ManKind Project, including other men’s group opportunities.
Here are a couple of other links you may want to check out.
- Contact our Outreach Team for help finding a men’s group: https://mkpusa.org/contact-us/
- Check out all the other training opportunities: https://mkpusa.org/training-catalog/
- Check out our flagship training, the New Warrior Training Adventure: https://mankindproject.org/new-warrior-training-adventure/
See the the current schedule.
Q & A
(10 minutes)
Closing the Circle
Returning home. Telling the story. Going back to the ‘normal’ world. Blessing round.
Check-out
What insight or learning are you taking away?
Did you get what you came for?
Acknowledgements
Homework:
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