Every day you awaken with profound choices
about the kind of man you will be and the kind of world you will create.
Choose wisely.

Step Into a New Way of Being

It’s Time to Mind the Gap

Is there a gap between who you say you are, or who you think you are, and how you actually show up?

Do you have untapped gifts within you?

Do you fear bringing them into the light?

Through the clutter of conflict, the lenses of endless tasks, and the tyranny of timelines and to-dos it can be easy to lose sight of one’s power to create your imagined life and your ability to positively impact your world.

  • Our world is at a proverbial crossroads.
  • Depression, addiction and anxiety are at an all time high in men.
  • Suicide is a silent epidemic impacting men across all ages and backgrounds.
  • Communities and institutions are struggling, our environment is under assault and many are looking for solutions.

It feels overwhelming at times.

Have you asked yourself: “What can I do” or “How can I make a difference in the world?”

If so, the Crossroads training may be for you.

the CROSSROADS Episode
of the ManKind Podcast

Identify Resistance,
Embrace the Life you Long to Live

Crossroads is for men who want to explore a new way of being fully authentic in the world and to identify the next steps on that journey. It requires your commitment. Experienced, certified facilitators from The ManKind Project will guide you while moving from where you are to where you want to be. Along the way, you might discover the life that you always thought was possible.


The Crossroads Provides:

  • A framework for fundamental habit formation.
  • Understanding resistance (and its role as a saboteur of good intentions).
  • A way to evaluate your choices and impacts.
  • Insights into how your perceptions shape your outcomes.
  • A confrontation with self at the Crossroads.
  • Core Value Integration.
  • Wisdom from your Gold & Shadow.

The Crossroads Includes:

  • 24 direct contact hours divided into six 2.5-hour large group sessions
    and five 1.25-hour team sessions (four men per team).
  • Five Crossroads Facilitators.
  • Required reading and media references.
  • Support and feedback during and in between sessions

CROSSROADS is for men who are serious about facing their resistance to make changes in their lives.

This training is open to men at all levels of experience in men’s work. Your facilitators are committed to support you in making lasting changes. You will be asked to show up prepared, do the work in between sessions and challenge yourself to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability. When you finish this course, you will have crafted a written plan of action to manifest the changes in your life you are ready to take on and create the purpose driven life you long to live!

“We don’t rise to the level of our expectations,
we fall to the level of our training.”
~ Archilochus

Map of the Crossroads Training


Commit to Change – Men describe the life they know is possible & commit to change a behavior or habit.


Accountability – Men experience accountability & learn about choice, impact, and shadow.


Resistance – Men meet Resistance, judgments, projections, and cultural shadows.


Crossroads – Men confront their Resistance and explore the life they know is possible.


Identity – Men identify their values, priorities, and the actions they must take to live what was their unlived life!


Declaration – Men claim the life they are committed to living and their willingness to do whatever it takes to stay on their path.

Crossroads Integration 

Offered exclusively to Crossroads alumni. 

When you’ve completed the CROSSROADS training, you will have the option of joining a Crossroads 6 Session Integration follow-up group. 

Continue building connections, locking in your habits, and working your written plan, supported by a Crossroads team leader.

This optional Integration is only $125. 



Your Guides Through Transformation

Initiated: October 1995
NWTA Full Leader and Leader Trainer

I have participated in over 100 New Warrior Training Adventures (NWTAs) all across the United States and around the world. I became a NWTA Certified Co-Leader in 2004, Full Leader in 2014 and have been leading Staff Trainings since 2016. I recently collaborated with the Crossroads design team. I live in Los Angeles.

Judge Mattocks
Initiated: September 2000
NWTA Co-Leader

I was a student of Political Science and Electronic Engineering as well as an athlete at the University of North Carolina during the era of forced integration. I bring my experiences from a non-dominant-cultural point of view. I am a certified Shadow Work Coach and Group Facilitator and also a Certified Shadow Work Trainer and Mentor. 

Vincenzo Falone
Initiated: May 1995
NWTA Certified Co Leader/ Full Leader Candidate

I helped establish the New York Metro Mankind Project community and have participated in many MKP events and outreach over the past 26 years. I run a healing center with my wife where I have established a LIFE Coaching and CranioSacral practice.

Maik Bain
Initiated: March 2003
MKP Ritual Elder

I am a 63 year old Bi-racial Black man from the Metro NY Tristate Area. I am a Ritual Elder with over 80 staffings. I am married and have been in the Social Work field since 1998. My mission is to create a world of Peace and Tranquility by Controlling my Rage and Anger. I am committed to supporting and creating diversity throughout MKP.

David Kaar
Initiated: February 1988
MKP USA Past Chair
MKP International Past Chair

I am a Shadow Work facilitator, teach general facilitation and founder of The Dragon Training. I also led the team which created the Men’s Work Crossroads and continue to develop new online trainings for MKP USA. 

Initiated: September 2007
MKP International Certified Co-leader

I am an active coach and mediator and recently moved from the Kansas City area to Long Island, New York to further explore a relationship with Laura, and begin the next chapter of an active life. 

Jonathan Pilgrim
Initiated: June 2005
MKP Co-Leader Candidate

I staffed over 35 NWTAs and led several PITs and was part of the team of ten men who designed the Crossroads course. I live in Denver and work as an architect making healthy spaces for pets. 

Step Into Transformation

For All Men

Starts February 12th, 2024

Registration Deadline: February 5th, 2024








Monday Evenings *Course
(Feb 12, 19, 26, Mar 4, 11, 18)
8:00pm – 10:30pm Eastern
(find my time)

AND Thursday Evenings *Work Team
(Feb 15, 22, 29, Mar 7, 14)
8:00pm – 9:15pm Eastern


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In Memoriam – Matt Kelly

Matt Kelly

Matt Kelly


Because of the work Matt has been able to do in the ManKind Project to bring long-hidden beliefs out of shadow, his family would tell you that he’s a better husband, father, and friend.

Since we launched the Men’s Work Introduction in late 2018, over 1500 men have completed the three week course and over 100 men have stood at the CROSSROADS. Matt Kelly was one of the key architects of both of these courses. Matt was a New Warrior Training Adventure Full Leader and Leader Trainer. He served on the Board of the ManKind Project USA, and was the Director for the former New Mexico Center of the ManKind Project.

Matt’s life and leadership inspired thousands of men to step forward into their higher calling; with passion, humor, curiosity, and integrity. His voice and his laughter will long ring out in the halls where men gather to do their work. Matt was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer in December, 2021, and passed away in January, 2022. He was surrounded by friends and held close by his wife, Cheri, and his son, Malcolm throughout his passing.