Week 3: Course Outline

BIPOC (Black, Indigenous and People of Color)

Ground Rules / Logistics / Confidentiality – Checking In. :: How We Show Up

Leaders will model and guide the check-in

  • (3 min) Welcome … Bless you for coming back!

Ground Rules

  • Confidentiality – What I say here is confidential. Outside this circle, I will not share another man’s words, actions, or identity. I will only speak of my own experience and personal insights. Assume that there are mandated reporters in attendance who have a legal responsibility to report cases of abuse or potential abuse.
  • Punctuality – The group will begin on time and end on time. If I arrive late, I will not interrupt the flow of the group.
  • Ethical Relationships – This is not a business group. No solicitations.
  • Non-Violence – Violence can be physical, verbal, emotional, or spiritual. I acknowledge that my words and actions have an impact on those around me. I take responsibility for my words and actions.
  • No Drugs or Alcohol – I will not attend the group while under the influence of alcohol or recreational drugs. If I break this agreement I will tell the group and accept the choice of the group in handling this to create a safe space for the men present.
  • Participation – I will speak openly and truthfully in “I” statements (not “you” or “he” statements). Any man may pass at any time. Any man may STOP a process (especially in the service of maintaining safety). I am not here to give advice. If I want advice, I will ask for it specifically. I will ask permission before offering feedback. I am responsible for taking care of myself. If I need something, I will ask for it. If I have questions, I will ask

Check In

  • Body Centered Meditation
  • Check-in:
    • Name
    • City
    • Emotion … where it is in your body, a couple of lines about what the emotion means … feeling.
  • Leaders model check-in

The Week #2 Question:

  • What was it like to go to someone you care about to ask them what they want you to hear?

Check in on readings from Week 2

  • Code Switching – What new awareness do I have.
  • Shadow / Resistance – Multiple meanings and ways of seeing ourselves and the world.
  • Conscious Communication – What have I learned about me thru this process.

Deeper Check In

Limiting Beliefs – Internal Oppression Awareness

  • I show up as the man I want to be and live the life I want to live WHEN … (or IF)
    • What are the limiting beliefs, stories getting in the way.
    • How do those stories Impact You? Your Family?
    • How might your life be different if you made a different choice. 

Accountability

  • Leaders invite the men into accountability – run it
    • Accountable – My balance sheet. How does what I say line up with what I do? 
    • Integrity / Congruent – How do I feel about my Accountability?
    • How do I impact the world? What is my impact? 
    • How can I take more responsibility for my side of the street?
      • Internal Pollution
      • External Pollution
      • My internal reality creates my external reality.
    • What do I let myself get away with?

Practicing Accountability

  • Leaders lead and model accountability. Lead with Golden Accountability.
    Is there a man in the circle who made a specific agreement in the past week, and KEPT IT? 
  • Who here wants to look at a piece of Accountability?
    • What was your commitment?
    • Did you keep the agreement?
    • Choice: If you Did NOT meet the commitment – What did you choose to do instead?
      If you DID meet the commitment – What could you have done instead? 
    • What is the impact on you?
    • What is the impact on those around you?
    • Shadow / Resistance : What’s the belief … under that? What is the old belief about yourself that this reinforces? 
    • Accountability: What do you want to do to move forward?
      What are you willing to do to be the captain of your ship? What is a simple action that you will take?

The Invitation:

We want to give you some tools. 

  • Deep Insight and Emotional Healing
  • Integration of your Archetypal Energies
  • Grounding Ritual
  • Tools for Accountability
  • Mission. Vision. Purpose.
  • Clearing
  • Tools for handling conflict and deep emotional charge
  • Tools for radically healing past trauma, wounds and injury.

We have LIVE events where you can get all this.

Here’s what we will do: Send you more information. Here’s a website link to a catalog of what we offer. 

Q & A

(10 minutes)

Closing the Circle

Returning home. Telling the story. Going back to the ‘normal’ world. Blessing round.

Check-out

What insight or learning are you taking away?
Did you get what you came for?
Acknowledgements

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