Today I’m talking with Stefan Charidge, a New Warrior Brother, a psychotherapist and trainer, as he enlightens us about the intriguing Penny Model, Gestalt Theory, and the four core emotions: joy, fear, sadness, and anger.

Stefan takes us on a journey through his transition from a baker to a therapist, revealing how he has cultivated his unique approach over the years. We talk about Gestalt Theory and its interruptions, which Stefan believes are all fear-based. We delve into the world of emotions and explore how shame can only be experienced when supported by one of the four core emotions.

Discover the power of saying yes and no with Stefan’s Penny Model. Learn how saying yes to something we want to say no to, and vice versa, can lead to fatigue, suppression, and even depression. Stefan breaks down the three main options when we are depressed and provides an insightful look at how addiction and self-harm are often dysfunctional attempts to process trauma. Moreover, we take a deep look into how childhood traumas can be held at a cellular level and accumulate, creating emotional burdens.

Finally, Stefan takes us through the importance of expressing our emotions and setting boundaries, and how taking action with our emotions can help reduce their intensity.

We wrap up our conversation exploring the idea of self-authorship and how life happens for us, not to us, if we take control and become the authors of our own stories. You wouldn’t want to miss this enlightening conversation with Stefan Cheridge, where we unravel the mysteries of the human emotional landscape.


(0:00:12) – Penny Model and Gestalt Therapy Exploration
(0:16:37) – Impact of Saying Yes and No
(0:22:04) – Abuse and Trauma Impact Understanding
(0:38:18) – Exploring Emotional Expression and Boundaries
(0:45:02) – Overcoming Pain and Connecting With Love
(0:59:51) – Embracing Self-Authorship in Life
Where to Find Stefan Charidge;

The Penny Model


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